March 2018 - Compassion Group Notes

Limit Setting, Discipline or abuse and aggression?

The root cause for a lot of confusion in understanding the difference between what is limit setting, discipline, and aggression lies in childhood when we are told, “I love you, and now I am going to shame, criticize, humiliate and beat you.” In group, Charisse and I we are committed to truth and truth cannot be separated from love. However, truth told with passion and love, can very often evoke the same old feelings of fear and shame that you had when you were “beaten because you were loved,” as children. Notice how this compromises you in the group as fear arises around speaking and then feeling vulnerable and shame, (which is a memory). You fear being confronted, challenged and told truth. Notice how your fear stops you from participating.  For more… Read here